By Swati Shirtar
At 27, Monika Khairnar’s world crumbled. A sudden accident stole her husband, leaving her a widow and a single mother to her six-year-old child. The weight of grief was compounded by a chilling realization: with only a 12th-grade education and no work experience, she was utterly vulnerable in a society that often dismisses single mothers with a mix of pity and prejudice. Monika’s story is not just about finding a job; it’s an exemplar to the unyielding strength of a woman reclaiming her life, defying expectations, and forging a path to dignity through financial independence.
The Shadows of Societal Doubt:
Before encountering the Centre for Youth Development and Activities (CYDA), Monika lived under a cloud of despair. The whispers of societal judgment echoed in her mind: “What can she possibly do? How will she ever manage?” These doubts were a constant torment, fueled by the stark reality of her limited options. Every bill was a mountain, every day a struggle. The fear of failing her child gnawed at her, threatening to suffocate her spirit. She felt invisible, a statistic in a world that seemed to have no place for her.
A Glimmer of Hope:
Then came the Non-Traditional Livelihood (NTL) awareness campaign, a lifeline thrown into her sea of despair. Centre for Youth Development and Activities (CYDA) an NGO, working to empower women, dared to suggest possibilities beyond the conventional roles deemed “suitable” for women. The idea of security services – a field dominated by men – sparked something within Monika. It wasn’t just a job; it was a challenge, a chance to prove her worth, not just to the world, but to herself. The soft skills training offered felt like a shield against the barbs of her own insecurities.
Facing the Barriers:
The path wasn’t easy. Societal barriers loomed large. Being a single mother carried a heavy stigma, making potential employers question her commitment and capabilities. “Who will look after your child?” they’d subtly imply. Her lack of work experience was another hurdle. How could she convince anyone to take a chance on her when she had nothing to show on a resume? Financial struggles were a relentless pressure, and the constant anxiety of providing for her child a heavy burden on her shoulders. But the most insidious challenge was self-doubt, the deeply ingrained belief that she wasn’t good enough, strong enough, or capable enough to succeed in a “man’s world.”
Transformation Forged in Fire:
Enrolling in the security job training program was a pivotal moment. It wasn’t just about learning skills; it was about rebuilding her shattered confidence. The soft skills training – communication, customer service, problem-solving – were more than just job requirements; they were tools to dismantle her own limitations. Interacting with trainers and other women facing similar challenges created a powerful sense of solidarity, a reminder that she wasn’t alone. With each session, Monika felt her resolve hardening, her spirit rekindling. She was no longer just a grieving widow; she was a woman determined to take control of her destiny.
Triumph and Independence:
The day Monika secured a job as a security guard at Commerce Zone IT Park, earning ₹22,000 per month, was a victory cry against all odds. It was more than just a paycheck; it was a symbol of her resilience, her courage, and her unwavering commitment to her child. With a steady income, she could finally breathe. She could support her child, manage household expenses, and, for the first time in a long time, feel a sense of security.
Reclaiming Dignity:
But the financial independence was just the beginning. Thriving in a male-dominated industry shattered gender stereotypes and challenged deeply ingrained societal norms. Monika earned the respect of her colleagues, not because she was a woman trying to fit in, but because she was a capable, dedicated professional. Her success restored her sense of dignity and self-worth, proving that women can excel in any profession, given the right opportunity and support. She walked taller, spoke with more conviction, and carried herself with a newfound pride.
An Inspiration of Hope:
Monika’s transformation has had a ripple effect, inspiring other women in her community to challenge their own limitations and pursue unconventional career paths. Her courage has sparked conversations, ignited dreams, and created a powerful sense of collective empowerment. She is no longer just a survivor; she is a beacon of hope, a living testament to the power of resilience, and a champion for women’s rights.
Monika’s Voice:
“Before, I felt like I was drowning,” Monika says, her voice filled with emotion. “This job…it saved me. It gave me my life back. It showed me that I am stronger than I ever thought possible. I want other women to know that they don’t have to be defined by their circumstances. They can break free, they can achieve anything they set their minds to.”
It proves that when we invest in women, we invest in a brighter future for all.
Monika Khairnar’s journey is a powerful reminder that societal and gender-related barriers can be overcome with determination, skill-building, and the unwavering support of an organization committed to empowering women. Her story is not just about individual success; it’s about creating a more just and equitable world where all women have the opportunity to live with dignity, independence, and purpose.
(The author is Program Manager at CYDA)
