In a world where people are often judged by who they love or how they look, discovering one’s true self—especially when it doesn’t conform to social norms—can be a long and painful journey. The LGBTQIA+ community frequently faces significant social rejection and misunderstanding. Many struggle in silence, hiding their authentic selves just to gain acceptance. However, some, like Shivanya Patil, choose to act with courage rather than fear.
Discovering her true self
Born into a middle-class family in Pune, 31-year-old Shivanya, a fashion design graduate with an engineering degree, grew up in an environment where she only knew two genders—male and female. She was sensitive, creative, and drawn to colors, clothes, and the art of dressing up. However, society did not understand. At school, she was teased for her soft voice and mannerisms. At home, she was told to “behave like a boy.” She found herself attracted to both boys and girls, a realisation that set her apart, which led to confusion and self-doubt.
Despite bullying from classmates, mockery from neighbours, and a lack of emotional support, Shivanya focused on her studies. She completed her B.E. in Engineering, hoping that education would bring her independence. But her heart longed for something more expressive and creative. She joined a fashion designing course, where she found her true passion—designing sarees, stitching blouses, and styling women’s clothing. Fashion became her language of freedom. The fear of rejection caused her to hide her emotions. Still, a small voice inside her kept saying, “You are not wrong. You are just you.”
Shivanya started a small tailoring setup in her rented room. She stitched blouses and saree falls for local customers, but her income rarely crossed Rs. 3,000 to Rs. 4,000 a month. It was difficult to pay rent or buy fabric. There were days when she did not have enough food. Clients hesitated to give her work, and neighbours whispered behind her back. Even her family found it hard to accept her transition. In those difficult days, she was forced to beg at traffic signals and temples, a reality that broke her heart. Yet, she never gave up on her dream – to live with dignity and own her own boutique.
A New Beginning
Her turning point came when she came across Centre for Youth Development and Activities, through a friend. Curious and desperate for change, Shivanya attended the Entrepreneurship Development Program. For the first time, she felt respected and valued. The trainers helped her understand how to manage clients, advertise her work, and set the right prices. Along with technical skills, the sessions gave her confidence, a belief that she could stand on her own feet.
Through CYDA’s financial grant of Rs. 10K, she bought a pico machine and an interlock machine. These tools helped her increase her production velocity and take on larger orders for blouses and sarees. Gradually, she started building her brand.
With a new hope, Shivanya launched her own boutique – “Third Soul Boutique.” The name came from her heart. “If men and women are two souls,” she said, “then I am the third—unique.” Her boutique soon became famous for elegant designs, perfect stitching, and her personal touch. Today, Shivanya earns around Rs . 15,000/- to Rs . 20,000/- per month, with clients coming from the neighbourhood and online orders. Her neighbours now call her Madam and respect her. Her family has also started to accept her identity.
Becoming a voice for others
Beyond her business, Shivanya has become a mentor and motivator for other transgender individuals. She encourages them to use their skills, to learn and to believe in their potential. Looking back, Shivanya smiles through tears. From standing at traffic lights to standing behind her boutique counter, her journey tells the world that identity is not a choice-it’s a truth.
